[[ Guys it’s 2018 there’s too much information about how the massacre was carried out for you to make this mistake just pick a non-massacre AU p much all the uchiha blogs have those i’m begging you–]]
Tag: psa
I’m noticing antis misusing terms again.
“Grooming” is not a minor going on the internet and lying about their age to access adult materials and potentially forming viewpoints based on those materials.
Grooming, especially child grooming, is when a predator earns their victims trust through things like favors and friendship so that the victim will let their guard down and be easier to abuse/exploit. If someone was groomed it means they were explicitly abused/exploited or intended to be abused/exploited by the groomer.
Telling someone who never even spoke to your kid sister that they’re a groomer because your sister lied about her age and reblogged porn is extremely gross and unwarranted. Claiming you were groomed just because you lied about your age and were around adults that liked kinks that you were fine with at the time but now find objectionable is wrong and dishonest.
Please stop misusing terms and wrongly accusing people of very serious things.
[[ @antis-delete-your-blogs-pls @block-report-program @block-this-anti @antis-delete-your-blogs-please
Tumblr user anti-staginstasis is trying to incite a harassment campaign against @statexfstasis. Claiming they write bad ships/content/ and even up to telling them to die.
The blog cannot be archived via traditional means (I have attempted), but here is an album full of receipts. The blog as of right now can only be accessed via dashboard mode.
I just need to spread the word to not interact with the user, simply block them and move on. ]]
Reblog if you are willing to plot/RP via Discord/Skype, etc!
My dash has, in the past two years, become increasingly invested in this idea that fic comments are the fan creator’s “currency,” the means by which fan creators are “paid,” and therefore, it logically follows, a thing fan creators are owed.
I’m not a huge fan of this.
Do I like receiving comments? Yes. God yes. Love it. Enter into a black funk if I don’t get at least 25 within the first week of posting, at least 15 within the first day, at least 5 in the first hour, and at least one right away right in the very first second. I refresh obsessesively in those first seconds. I want all the attention on me and my work. I feel like I need it.
But it is not owed to me. Not the way my job owes me payment for my labor. Not the way I earn currency. I’m not contracting with fanfic readers for comments. I’m posting something and letting the internet have at it, which is a different thing entirely.
I think sometimes about how comments-as-currency interact with BNF culture. If you’re taking in the idea “this is a fic by a very important person whose opinion on the canon is sacrosanct and special” and also “by reading this free internet story, you now owe it to the creator to make them feel good about it and themselves,” that’s a particular magic elixir. And I guess a part of me is still scarred from the Cassie Clare days, and really does not agree with assigning special primacy to fandom creators because of the ways that can go drastically wrong.
Though, actually, never mind the Cassie Clare days. In the here and now, there are fic authors who feel they should get special praise from fellow fans for “originating” specific ship fandoms (why, because you showed up first?). In the here and now, there are BNFs with hundreds of bookmarks and thousands of comments who routinely threaten to flounce because the attention they get is just not enough for them.
the longer I am in fandom, the less I care for that shit. I think fandom is often made worse when we treat it like a transaction made for social approval, when we normalize this idea that participation in fandom is by its nature a contract by which you can demand the reactive energy of others.
I think a lot about two times I didn’t “comment.” One is Terry Pratchett. I love Terry Pratchett. Ever since I picked up a copy of Mort in Heathrow airport at age 12, I told myself, every year, that I would write him a letter telling him how funny he was and how much I loved his work. I told myself that when an essay on Mort won me a scholarship to high school. I told myself that when an essay on Death in Discworld won me a scholarship to college, and then helped send me to professional school. I told myself I would write Terry Pratchett a letter every year for over ten years, and then he died and I never sent him a letter and I regret never sending him a letter.
I also think about shinigami.org. Shinigami.org was a Gundam Wing fansite way back in the early 00s, run by a fan named Kumiko. Kumiko was the first fanfic writer I ever idolized. I don’t remember the quality of her work or the characterization or the writing style or the pairings, but I remember the way her work made me feel. I loved this one Hitchcock AU in particular. I checked shinigami.org every single day during computer time in 8th grade, desperate to see if she had posted a sequel to that fic. Then Kumiko announced she was shutting the site down. Agonized, I then checked every single day to see if she would reverse her decision. She never did, but before she took the site down she posted a note saying she was thankful for all the people who had messaged her with kind words and praise. And then I felt embarrassed and bad, because it hadn’t occurred to me to tell Kumiko how much I idolized her (and I did) and how great I found her Hitchcock AU (and I really, really did).
These are not the only times I haven’t commented. They happen to be the only times I have felt BAD about not commenting. Why? Not because I was stiffing Kumiko or PTerry — I wasn’t. I paid for my copy of Mort and every subsequent Discworld book I bought, so I wasn’t denying Terry Pratchett anything he was lawfully owed. And Kumiko had made the choice to establish a Gundam Wing website for free and post stories on it for free and (unlike some of her contemporaries, say, PL Nunn, who charged for a lot of her work) was not asking fans to enter into some kind of contractual arrangement where they owed her currency for stories rendered. So I wasn’t backing out on a deal with either her or Terry Pratchett, and I didn’t feel bad for that reason. I felt bad because I missed a chance to express what Terry Pratchett’s work meant to me and what Kumiko’s work meant to me. I felt bad because their brought me intense happiness and I had the words in me to reflect on that happiness and just why it had such a pull on me and made me rethink the way I looked at the world. But I did not use those words, which was a missed chance for me to know more about me.
Don’t comment because comments are fandom currency. Comment when you feel like you have something to say. Don’t feel bad about not commenting because you “owe” a comment. You don’t owe comments. But if you have a feeling you can capture, something a work brings out of you, and you don’t take the time to sit with yourself for a few minutes and capture that feeling, then sometimes that can be a shame.
That’s how I feel about comments. And no, I don’t comment on everything. And honestly, you shouldn’t have to either. If you feel like it helps to create a welcoming fandom space, if it makes you more the person you want to be, then comment away, but even that, I think, should be more about how commenting helps you create something you value than how commenting is something you owe. I don’t think that, because I have written fic for free, I am thus owed the reactions of every single person who stumbles on that fic and happens to have a positive reaction. I do think, because I read fic for fun, that sometimes there’s added joy in taking the time to express myself to the original creator. Those are two very different approaches.
And, it goes without saying, appreciate every comment you get. Because no, people don’t owe them to you.
All of this! ❤
[[ Ok alright I told myself I wasn’t going to make this post because it’s likely going to erupt into drama/discourse, and it is a response to something I just saw but it’s really troubling me.
Please stop expecting your followers to automatically become your BFFs and cater to all your emotional needs/be psychic about them. Especially stop expecting them to act as a form of therapy/comfort for you. The keyword is expecting. You should not be expecting automatic/constant emotional support in a community of roleplayers. That’s the wrong place to do it.
Once you turn what should be a natural extension of kindness/friendship into an obligation, it stops being that. It’s manipulative at that point. You should never guilt trip your friends into actions– you are somehow left wondering how you are slowly becoming more and more ignored as if it isn’t your own fault.
I get that not everyone is mentally sound/emotionally sound etc. And friends will provide comfort because it’s the kind thing to do. But please stop to think, and realize, that your friends may also have problems of their own, and besides that, lives of their own– and not every single follower you have will automatically be your BFF, or be present when you tell people OOC that you feel down.
We’re here to roleplay. OOC issues will come, sure, but the moment I see people using their mental state as a way to grab attention/pity/etc, that’s a red flag for me. Because that shouldn’t be the use of your followers. Your friends aren’t your therapists. They can be a comfort occasionally and that’s not a bad thing. But the moment that’s all you want them for, the moment they become your emotional crutch, that’s the moment they’re gonna start pulling away. Every time I see things like dash, I will pull away, too.
It’s not my job to be your therapist. I will be a comfort to close friends who I trust, and who I know I have the energy to help and who I want to help, I will never be guilt tripped into doing so.
This also creates an obligation out of literally everyone who sees the post. Listen, I don’t have time to spend all my mental/emotional energy thinking about people who are acquaintances at best and sending them things that may remind me of them. That doesn’t mean I won’t do it, I’ve done it before. But I do those things purely because I want to and I thought they’d like it, as is supposed to be the point of the post– except the post implies you are “choosing to not be kind” if you don’t do such a thing. I will not be made to cater all of my time to people I barely know, do not use me as your emotional crutch.
If you truly feel like you need the attention of acquaintances in a roleplaying commmunity or else you feel completely ignored/unloved/unwanted, or think the people not doing this are bad people, there are issues that need to be taken with a professional outside tumblr. Thank you. ]]
Idiot: Why does fantasy need homophobia, racism and sexism?!
Me: Because you need someone to oppose? Not to mention if you are an evil character then be evil.
Okay im reblogging this because I didn’t want the chain but like… racism… is… definitely a prevalent thing amongst like all cultures everywhere. Every culture, even subconsciously, is a bit racist because stereotypes are a thing and very pervasive. To make a world realistic there is going to be racism. There is likely going to be sexism somewhere too. Not every culture is blatantly super racist or anything. And it’s definitely not always structural either, but it’ll probably be there unless they’re a super well socialized people with everyone around them.
It’s realism. Of course it’s boring to base an entire story around it, but having it present is part of world building. Also if a story makes you hate one of the characters for who they are or what they believe… good… thats how you’re SUPPOSED to feel reading it.
Also a racist/homophobic/sexist player character can… evolve? It can create a good arc for said character?
For fuck’s sake GARRUS had shades of this in Mass Effect 1 and he evolved out of it. Or you see it in Klingons in Star Trek. Or Paladin Danse in Fallout 4?
Like, all these characters can start out bigoted and it can be a good thing for the story.
Not to mention that the difficulties presented specifically by discrimination are kinda core to the experience of many fictional groups. Look at Fallout, now take away all the prejudice against ghouls and what do you get? A superhuman race that trades hair for immortality, immunity to environmental hazards, and regeneration. Look at almost any D&D setting, take away all the prejudice both against and by the orcs, and they’re just like humanity except stronger, tougher, and more numerous. Look at Mass Effect, take away the prejudice surrounding the Quarians, and the entire fascinating culture of the Migrant Fleet collapses (not to mention every part of the story relating to the Geth in any way).
The point of fiction is not to create a utopia that doesn’t exist and does nothing for the real world. The primary purpose of fiction is to tell an interesting story, interesting stories require conflict, and the majority of conflict in our world is the product of misunderstanding or prejudice.
The secondary purpose of fiction is to simulate serious issues, whether real-world or hypothetical, and propose solutions which do not negatively impact real people if they would fail, thereby spreading ideas about potential ways to improve life for real people.
That said, you totally can remove the aspects of real world prejudice which you don’t like or don’t make sense for the setting. Transphobia would be pretty damn rare in D&D for example, because there’s magic that makes a flawless, instant transition pretty easy. And Mass Effect is pretty much free of homophobia (in-setting anyway, not time to talk about the voice actors…) because the Alliance is an extrapolation of human culture a couple hundred years forward and we’re rapidly removing all the remaining homophobia in our culture today.
“Why are roleplay icons getting smaller and smaller? 100×100 used to be the standard. Now, I can barely see what the icons are trying to portray, which really just defeats the purpose of using them in the first place. If the icon is more border and filter than it is image, then what’s the point? Aesthetics and edits are nice, until they start getting in the way.“
(( kcoadjowjfkskd
It’s not a random adults job to make sure there aren’t any minors period interacting with them. What are y’all gonna do when you have to interact with parents, teachers, or other regular adults you meet in one regular day?? Die???
1) be honest about your age when signing up for tumblr. Enforced safe mode will not let you interact with flagged blogs. (Like mine which is flagged explicit)
2) it’s your parents/guardians job to make sure you’re surfing the internet safely, not us.
3) stop assuming literally every person over 20 is a predator waiting to happen. That is some really unhealthy paranoia.
4) get off Tumblr if you’re literally under 16 this is not hard.
5) this is just as much our space. We were here first. This dogwhistling of adults supposedly being able to talk with teens/late teens is stupid. ))
The idea that adults shouldn’t be allowed in fandom spaces and that it’s inherently creepy for them to be involved in fandoms at all is one that needs to die.
You’re never too old to be a fan of something, you’re never too old to participate in fandoms, and you are not obligated to stop participating in said fandoms once you reach some arbitrary age that fandom newcomers has somehow decided is the age limit for participating in fandoms.
This is especially aggravating for fandoms based on established franchises that are decades old. Voltron (34 years, 37 if you count GoLion), Star Trek (52 years), Star Wars (41 years), Doctor Who (55 years), these fandoms have been around for a long, long time. Who do you think started these fandoms in the first place?
It’s absolutely mindblowing to me that there seems to be this huge push to force “old people” out of fandoms, especially when they have been participating in said fandom for longer than the people trying to push them out.
I’ve even been seeing this with newer fandoms, like Danny Phantom (14 years), Harry Potter (21 years) and Sonic the Hedgehog (27 years). Most of the adults in these fandoms grew up with those respective franchises, and they shouldn’t be expected to just drop them like a rock the second they become “too old”.
Even if adults are joining new fandoms… so what? There is no maximum age limit on being a fan of something. Who are you to decide who is and isn’t allowed to participate in a fandom?
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