shippingisnotactivism:

I feel like this is a distinction that isn’t being made often enough, so let ,me clear it up.

Not liking a [thing], doesn’t mean you are an anti.

Not liking a ship, a trope, a kink or a [thing], doesn’t make you an anti. Even making/reblogging posts about why that thing makes you personally uncomfortable, doesn’t make you an anti. Yes, you would be anti!thing in the sense that you don’t like it, but it doesn’t mean you subscribe to the anti ideology. You are allowed to not like ships, or kinks, or any kind of content for any reason, and that’s fine and you are allowed to want to engage in fandom in a critical way.

What makes you an anti is:

– calling people some variation of “p*dophile/rape/abuse apologist” for liking a ship, or having a kink or claiming they are actual abusers for ii

– making your personal feelings on the thing the bases of moral judgment against the thing (aka “I think x is gross, therefore x is morally unacceptable” Fun fact: the world does not revolve around you!)

– harassing (which includes anything from doxxing, anon hate to making “callouts” usually with very misinterpreted information) people for the way they engage in fandom or for their consensual kinks, or basically anyone who is just quietly existing

– employing radfem rhetoric (particularly SWERF rhetoric – eg. careful with words like “normalising” and “fetishizing”)

– employing the think of the childrenlogical fallacy

– basically acting like fiction is the exact same thing as reality (yes, fiction can and does influence reality, but the relationship between the two is much more complex than “monkey see, money does” as antis like to pretend)

TL;DR

“I don’t like X, because of Y and Z, and i don’t want to see it, but I acknowledge that there are people who like X and that doesn’t make them bad people, although I still may not want to interact with them” – not an anti

“I don’t like X and everyone who likes X is a terrible person and I will suicide bait them until they do it or at least delete” – anti

ariannenymerosmartell:

Guess wat, tumblr. 

People have been writing “problematic” relationships since before Jesus learned to wipe his own ass. 

So much of renaissance literature focuses on creepy incest pairings, fucked up assholes trying to claim a young girl’s virginity, women exchanging sexual favors for agency. One notable example: when John Ford published ‘Tis Pity She’s a Whore, the literature world reacted as though the play would tear the very moral fibers of society apart. He was, quite literally, called the trash man, and it was decided that the play would bring about the end of decent society.

Guess wat

It didn’t. 

The world went on. Literally no one walked away after reading Ford’s play and thought, “Well, that’s that. Better go impregnate my sister and kill anyone who gets in our way.” However, people did come away from the play wondering if society was too harsh in its condemnations of what makes a villain. It left people DISCOURSING, if we will, on the merits and levels of evil. 

These themes are nothing new. They are not going to absurdly and suddenly “normalize” anything, because they never have. And, even better for our time than in Ford’s, as a society, we have become much more aware of how important it is to teach people about consent, about autonomy and agency, about safety. And it’s important that we keep teaching those lessons. But this does not mean we shun literature that explores anything negative. This does not mean we stop writing dynamics that explore Bad Things™ because, as history shows, it. won’t. destroy. society. 

If you don’t enjoy a thing, then don’t read it. Don’t interact with it. Ignore it. If you are disgusted by a thing, don’t engage with it. If it makes you sick, or ill, or makes you clutch your pearls in alarm, do not read the thing. NO ONE IS FORCING YOU TO. And above all else, don’t you dare get on a high horse and try to gain some moral high ground by shaming the people who do read, write, and engage with such dynamics because

Guess wat

It only encourages them to do it more. 

Someone told Shakespeare that his penis puns were too bawdy. 

So he went out of his way to add more.

Literature has always contained content that people did not like. There are always going to be ways to critique a work in a valid and rational way. Criticizing those who enjoy those works, and calling them “awful?” Not valid. Not rational. Not helpful. Not smart. 

[[ Okay real talk; and this is in my guidelines… if you go out of your way to pick a super illegible theme, I am not following you, nor playing with you in any capacity. I’m also not going to read your rules. I’m not going to guess which sparkle on your blog is the link or part of the background. Make them easy for me to access or I’m just not going to touch them.

For a community which writes as a hobby it sure seems to be a growing habit to make it impossible for people to actually read anything. ]]

SHIP WARS: A Simple Guide for Fandom

darthrose:

shinykari:

Q: Should I harass or bully someone over who/what they ship?

A: No.

Q: But they ship the wrong ship!

A: Still no. 

Q: Their ship will never be canon! It’s so obvious to anyone
reading/watching/playing.

A: I don’t care. The answer is still no.

Q: My ship is canon, and they ship one of the couple with
someone else! It’s like cheating! How about now?

A: Nope, not now either.

Q: The ship they ship is unhealthy/abusive/incestuous/icky.
I should definitely harass them about that.

A: It’s like you’re not even listening to me. No, no you
should not.

Q: But if they ship this about fictional characters, they must
support it in real life!

A: No, enjoying reading or writing about something is not
the same as supporting it in real life. Agatha Christie is not a mass murderer,
despite having fictionally killed over 100 people.

Q: Well, I guess it’s okay if the person shipping it is
doing so to deal with abuse or trauma of their own. But only then! Everyone else is fair game.

A: And how, pray tell, do you plan to enforce this arbitrary
rule?  You’re planning to compel people
to show their victim bone fides to
you, a complete stranger? So that you can pass judgement on whether their
trauma was “real enough” or if they are “victim enough” to warrant shipping
something you disapprove of? Not only is that absurd, it’s extremely offensive and damaging to the very people you’re purporting to help.
You don’t get to be the arbiter of someone else’s life experiences, period.
Some people use fandom as a coping mechanism, yes, and that is 100% their
business. Some people ship unhealthy/abusive ships for completely benign
reasons, up to and including “because they look pretty together” and that is perfectly valid. You don’t get a
free pass to harass someone in the name of great justice here.

Q: Fuck you, I’m going to harass someone anyway. I might
even make a blog about it!

A: Well, you’re an asshole then. I hope you step on a lego.

Step on a lego is now totally the modern social curse.

socialjusticewargames:

It’s okay to have fictional characters do problematic stuff. Really, it is. Fictional characters are there to tell a story; not to be perfect paragons of virtue.

“Yeah!” some people will say. “It’s fine as long as you show that it’s problematic!”

And I’ll say: No. You don’t need to always do that either. We can’t expect writers to point out every moral misstep a character makes.

It’s okay to have characters do something problematic, and it’s okay to assume that the readers can see why it’s problematic on their own.

reysistantis:

I don’t know where this recent idea came from that fiction has to be perfectly healthy anyway. Fiction is not inherently healthy and never has been, its not real, its for exploration and imagination. Fiction is separate from reality and that is why we like it. What you write about is not what you condone, Stephen King is not serial killer for writing about murder. People are not being “abuse apologists” for shipping two characters in a less than healthy way.

I’m sick of this new trend.

You don’t have to like a ship but you want to know what is actually hurting people? What is not promoting healthy behavior? Harassing shippers, telling them they’re disgusting over fiction, that kind of shining behavior antis exhibit.

[[ It’s one thing to choose to play a character who happens to love some character you absolutely hate– but to force the muse to extend that same criticism is just…

You need to keep your own feelings/opinions away from your character. They need to be be strictly separate. You are not the character otherwise, you’re using a hand puppet. It’s better to pick an OC in that case. ]]